growing up

[solarpsychedelic]

I think that the process of growing up entails removing projections from people, especially your heroes, yes.

But I also think we need to be kind and supportive toward people who are in that process of finding their heroes have clay feet and are looking for another way to relate to life.

Telling someone, “Well, duh” or “you should have known that all along” is not helpful. We all have projections and blind spots. People have differing ways of growing.

On top of that we live in a society that goes beyond mere extraversion and into a pathological obsession with and insistence on equating surfaces with truth and reality, when in fact, someone’s image and reality can be extreme opposites.

Unless you have very aware parents, which many of us don’t, then you’re raised to look outside of yourself for inspiration and answers. Over time you become emptier and cut off from whatever does exist inside. And that makes someone vulnerable to projection and idolization and vulnerable to cons and grifters.

So if there is someone in your life who is trying to go within, trying to pull back from their delusions, be kind and supportive. We need all the awake people we can get.